Coaching

Locus of Control

Locus of Control (image courtesy - Min Thein, pexels.com) Years ago, when I was a child, a family friend had come over to visit us. He was supposedly a good chess player, and as mothers are wont to extol the talents of their children, my mom mentioned that I played...

Work Stress!

Work stress! (Picture courtesy - www.pexels.com) “How in the hell could a man enjoy being awakened at 6:30 a.m. by an alarm clock, leap out of bed, dress, force-feed, shit, piss, brush teeth and hair, and fight traffic to get to a place where essentially you made lots...

I don’t know, Maybe!

One of the important things a client needs to keep in mind while seeking coaching, is the need to be completely open, and honest with the coach. In a sense, the coach is like the lawyer who needs to be aware of all aspects of a case, lest there be nasty surprises...

Be WEARY

Often, I come across clients who say nothing has worked for them. That they've tried everything and that everything has failed. They may think that their disorder is refractory (one that doesn't respond to treatment), or they may think that the therapist was not right...

Cognitive Distortions (4 of 4)

To recap, Cognitive Distortions are distortions in our thinking that disallow us from having a rational view of what is happening around us. Because we are looking at the world with a distorted filter, this often leads to negative emotions creeping to the surface and...

Cognitive Distortions (3 of 4)

To recap, Cognitive Distortions are ways in which our mind lies to us and tries to convince us into believing a distorted version of the truth. These distortions reinforce negative beliefs and make us feel bad about ourselves, or look at other people, or experiences...

Cognitive Distortions (2 of 4)

In Part 1 of this series, we looked at the first three Cognitive Distortions, that is Filtering, Black or White thinking, and Overgeneralisation. To recap, Cognitive Distortions are the anomalies in our thinking patterns which try to convince us that things are worse...

People Types

Understanding people has slowly become a necessary skill to develop. If we want to get something done from someone, it is important to know what kind of a person we are dealing with. It is fascinating to understand what makes people tick. Why some people react in one...

Rewiring the brain

Depending upon what we have been doing all our lives, which actions we have been repeating, which actions we have stayed away from, our brain gets wired. The things we do often, become easy for us. We do not have to think about them, while doing them. This includes...

Socratic Questioning

On any given day, about 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts cross a human mind. That means, if you don’t sleep, it is a little less than a thought per second. And if you do sleep, it is far more. Thoughts flash past our minds so fast, that we do not even have the time to...

Starting Small

OCD requires ERP for effective uprooting of the compulsions, but as explained in the ERP blog, it requires back breaking effort from the sufferer. And the sufferer often finds himself less than adequately equipped to handle the pressure exerted by the response...

Cognitive Distortions (1 of 4)

If you ever feel in your gut that what you are thinking about yourself, or about a situation, is not really true but you are still not able to shake away the feeling, and you feel yourself being pulled down on account of that, you may be experiencing the effect of...